There’s only one constant in life, change. How we face change says a lot about our personality.
Change can be extremely stressful. For example, you might decide to start a new job while running a side business. Or maybe in a tragic accident, you end up losing your home due to fire or flooding. Then there are smaller changes that can be just as overwhelming, like deciding to go back to school. Either way, stressors like these can wreak havoc on your physical and mental health.
On the other hand, change can be a motivator. Maybe that new job you took isn’t what it seemed, and now you’re working harder than ever to build your side hustle. Perhaps losing your home has allowed you to explore profound questions about what makes you truly happy. Maybe going back to school as an adult seemed wildly absurd, but the degree you earned is now making you more money.
One of the things I’ve learned in my healing journey is that we ultimately have the choice to look at change as a friend or foe. We can let change destroy our mental health, or we can use it to make radical transformations in our lives. But we have to be willing to pay attention to our minds and our internal dialogue.
When you feel overwhelmed and that obstacles are all around you, one of the best things you can do is befriend your inner voice. Reach inward and ask, “why is it that I feel stuck, what is preventing me from moving forward?” These Q&A sessions can happen in meditation practice, while journaling, or while driving in your car. Be honest with yourself, be patient, and listen for answers.
Life has a way of dropping change in front of us, seemingly obstructing our path. When we look at the enormity of the situation, sometimes we want to give up. However, if we’re paying attention to our mind allowing space for stressors to arise without stuffing them deep down inside, this is not an obstruction; it’s an opportunity.
What sort of opportunity comes from allowing space for stress in your life? Peace. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s the truth. We acknowledge that change is a part of life, and sometimes it can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be earth-shattering. When we avoid stress and push it deep down inside, we’re actually becoming attached to that stress and creating more in the process.
If I’m honest with you, I still struggle with change. But I’m also grateful for change and even for the struggle. Each time I experience change or what seems like a struggle, it’s another chance for me to practice turning obstacles into opportunities.
A runner doesn’t run a marathon without first running a 5k, and a bodybuilder doesn’t become massively muscular without going to the gym. Likewise, I won’t become a stronger person without changes. We can’t grow as people without life lessons.
For all the reasons above, I say change is good. But what do you think? What has been your experience with change, and do you see it as an obstacle or opportunity? Let me know in the comment section below!
A version of this post was previously published on CharlesminGuez and is republished here with permission from the author.
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